Which means that in the eyes of others, the color of the women I date is a big deal. I see people watching me and a stink rules, noses turned up, as if they think black and brown people would somehow the better present if I dumped my white girlfriend. I started reading James Baldwin, Ta-Nehisi Coates and other black and brown authors looking for guidance, a road map, help on what it means to be a brown man in the world. Like: Yes, rules bodies have been colonized. Yes, the black body has done more for society than it has gotten in return.